MARRIAGE? BE WITH A COMPLETER NOT COMPETITOR

Thinking and talking about marriage might be what I will really be discussing for a while, partly because I recently stepped out of a 2 year relationship that could have ended in marriage and stepped into another one that is ending in marriage. So you can understand where my muse will naturally focus on.

Giving it some thoughts, its quiet imperative that I share some words of wisdom with people in the same route with me and might be confused as to what and how he/she can be in a successful relationship that will 90%’ly’ end in MARRIAGE. Many a times we have heard the phrase, ‘marry aright’ and that comes with the combination of many things (I was tempted to say many a things…*lol) many factors locked into the matrix of events and trust me, some of these things are set in motion not by strenuous and articulate planning but by sheer luck.

Many times people have said “why do I always meet the wrong people?” no one can answer that question because the matrix of events in your life might just be wired to bring those set of people into your life to teach you some important things about life. Aesthetically, the balance life requires come from the good and bad and most people with pure heart (if that is ever possible) attract the ones with bad intentions.

When you want to marry, make sure you are with the person that completes you and not competes with you and the person that completes you might be the one pushes you, forces you or just a jerk to you. The person might see the weakness barring the greatness and strive to make you uncomfortable till you achieve greatness. The Wikitionary defines complete as, ‘To finish; to make done; to reach the end. To make WHOLE or entire’ and it also defines Compete as, ‘To contend; to seek or strive for the same thing, position, or reward for which another is striving…’

Without mincing words, the reason marriages are failing and divorce are on the rise today is because of the misconstruing of the original master plan of marriage in itself. I don’t want to sound too religious and or anti-feminist but marriage is all about role playing and if each person plays his or her role well, you are not only going to have a successful marriage, you are also going to have personal growth and accomplishments.

If you want to go fast, go alone but if you want to go far go with someone. This is very true about marriage and marrying someone that completes you is very imperative for corporate and personal accomplishments.

The next question might be; how do I identify the person that completes me?

Good question. Let me quickly answer that by giving you 3 key factors in determining who completes or competes with you. But that will be in the next article. Ciao!